Do The Work Anyway: Motivation, Resilience, and Growth for Trans Sisters
When your building something and I mean something that you pour your heart into. You understand it may take a bit of time, some days you may even loose a bit of hope of what your seeking to create. What if I told you, that you must keep working anyways. Keep pushing even if no one is watching you , keep striving for greatness even if no one is clapping for you. Growth doesn’t happen overnight it comes from the dedication to not give up.
A dream has to be cultivated and nurtured. Its not a overnight success story , now I'm not saying you cant get lucky. Really “what is luck without a bit of work anyways”. When your in those dark rooms working your butt off and you look to see your likes and followers. Do you “get a bit sad” if no one has liked or viewed your post? In that moment do you think about giving up?
If so then your right where you need to be. The moment you start feeling doubt is when you have to go twice as hard. Resilience, Consistency and Growth will be your best friends. If you can cultivate a mindset around these 3 components , you will be unbreakable. Lets break these 3 components down shall we!!
Motivation: Finding Motivation Without Validation
The day will come when you , get the feeling to start something new. Your excited ,thrilled , and you tell all your friends and family. Now of course some people will call you crazy or tell you that those dreams of your are impossible to grasp. Then all that motivation and hope you had before just fades away. In that moment of building your dreams , you feel kinda stuck. You start to question if that dream is possible , even though you been thinking about this for so long.
Well I'm gonna give you some hard truth. No one has to give you motivation , clap for you , or congratulate you. You will find that most successful people only got the hand claps after the work is done. For example Ts-Madsion who was looked down upon because of her entertainment background. Only for people to start clapping for her when they saw money was rolling in. Til this day that woman has paved part of the way for us Trans Women to be ourselves.
How many Days do think that she lost motivation? Probably more times than you can think , but she cultivated a sense of pride in her work to be the best at everything she does with no hesitation. Now don’t get me wrong , I would never compare you to anyone else on this planet. I just want you to understand that motivation comes and goes. So now your asking “well what can I do when that feeling to follow - through depletes" well I got you this is where Resilience is going to come into play.
Developing Emotional Resilience
Resilience is the act of doing something in the face of uncertainty and maybe a bit of despair. When you develop this skill ,you would have saved yourself days of “Not feeling Motivated”. Building Resilience muscle takes time and dedication. When you become Resilience at doing something that will benefit you. You start to realize that working towards said-goal was really not all that hard.
The main issue with people building something, they lose momentum. In order for you to cultivate resilisance is for you to keep going on those days that you quote on quote feel “burnt out”. Now don’t get mad at me , but I'm going to tell you something. The people you see on TV or the billionaires who build successful business. They don’t burn out , because there is no such thing.
They have built there Resilience muscle so strong to the point of ,being overly sick and still getting some work done. Now I'm not telling you to neglect your health or body. I’m only saying that you use that as an excuse to stop working and you start chasing old excuses again. Every year you say your going to do this and that , but how many years has it been since you said that. You could have been already in your dream life , but you choose to give up when the momentum was going.
Let me tell you something , when you loose that momentum its so much harder to get it back. That’s why I encourage for everyone and especially my Trans Women to go twice as hard , while knowing your success story is around the corner. To build Resilience , you just have to know with every fiber in your body that this dream of yours will come into fruition. I mean you have to be so sure that not even the haters can get under your skin because they lack something you always had and that’s Consistency.
Why Consistency Matters More Than Motivation
Consistency the act of doing something over and over again even if the results aren't there yet. Trust me when I say this , “I myself had this issue when I first started out, now I'm posting and blogging on a consistent schedule, even on the days I don’t get many views. Now I'm using myself as an example to show you that’s its possible.
Work as if the dream has already been executed and prospering. Basically to to sum it up , I’m saying you need to be in the mindset of already living that dream life. By working consistently each and everyday or whatever schedule you may have. Build on that foundation and keep it up no matter what. Its okay if you miss a day but missing two that’s not okay unless a emergency comes about but even then, you must keep going.
If you don’t see the numbers you wont to see or maybe the views hasn’t gone up in a week then you just have to keep going . You can even change your strategy . Just don’t give up because you don't see a fluctuation in the numbers , trust me the numbers will come. When your doing your life’s work, it's doesn't matter if the numbers don’t change because eventually your work will speak for itself. A way you can build your Consistency muscle is by doing the same thing each and everyday no matter what. Its almost like digging a hole in search of gold, you know theirs gold in that spot but your choosing not to give up. That’s because you know its all going to work in your favor. That’s why the biggest reward is not even the money but the Growth that comes with it.
Growth Through Daily Action
Congratulations you made it this far, that says to me that you no longer playing small. Growth is a byproduct of facing all the odds and saying no to giving up on the very life you deserve. Remember growth isn’t always linear but you grow by facing your biggest obstacles and crashing right through them. You gain so much wisdom by understanding that growth comes with each and everything we pour our hearts into. I understand it can be a bit painful sometimes , but its easier said than done when the work is finished.
Growth is almost like a bonus reward for tackling the very things that not many can do and you should be proud. You can either share your knowledge with others or you can keep compounding of those dreams and ambitions. I’m very proud of you my Trans Sisters , you been through so much. You endured so much pain and emotional trauma to get to this very point in your journey. You’ve grown so much just by staying true to yourself , I made this blog simply to spread my wisdom and help my fellow sisters in anyway I can.
It makes me happy knowing my girls will have a head start in life ,knowing I will always have y’all backs. Now to conclude today’s post I been working on a little something for everyone, my FREE Resource you can download it and here’s the link “https://www.deartranssisters.blog/books-for-trans-women/p/empowerment-guide-for-trans-women
A little something extra for my girls to be the best at everything and anything they do. I know this Blog helps so many Trans Women around the World and I will continue to pour into you as you pour back into me, I LOVE YOU ALL.