Stop Seeing Yourself As a Victim And Start Taking Control Of Your Life
Time and Time again my fellow Trans Women in arms fall victims to there past. Now don’t get me wrong , I would never invalidate your trauma or the way you were raised. Now tell me does that information that you were raised upon benefit you in any way , does that trauma that haunts you at night “go away” by masking it with lies? In Today’s” blog post we are going to uncover how you could use that pain to benefit you and to get you out of that Victim mentality.
What is a Victim Mentality?
It's someone who continues to use there past as a sob story to gain a sympathy story. Let me tell you as Trans women we all have a sob story of some sorts. I understand some of you had a tough upbringing “including myself, but why let that divine who you truly are. You are much more than the backlash , you received in the past and you are far more powerful than something that was supposed to teach you a lesson. A lot of us Trans girls go through life thinking “why us, Why cant we live the life we desire, why is life so hard for us ?” Let me tell you something, life as a trans woman can be challenging, but that doesn’t mean its all or be all.
Life isn’t supposed to be easy, its up to you to to realize that you hold the very power that can change your life for the better. Now ask yourself these questions
Do I go back to my past self when , things get tough”?
Do I blame my upbringing or past experiences for my current choices in life?
Do I rely on outside sources to validate me and my decisions in life?
Now I want you to take your time and actually answer these questions. These will be the blueprint to get out of your own way and cultivating a life that’s meaningful. In this next section we are going to talk about , how to use the pain you’ve endured and turn you into the woman you were always destined to be. No one said deep rooted work was easy , “it definitely wasn’t easy for me” but it gets easier the more you know yourself more than you know others. The more you actually sit down with yourself and lock the hell in. No one can stop your momentum unless you choose to stop.
Life is all about improvement and becoming the version of yourself that's unshakable. When you look inwards , what kind of woman do you picture? Is she successful , married , living her best life or maybe all of the above. Furthermore , I'm going to help you out here , I cultivated a “FREE RESOURCE”dedicated to “Empowerment ,Confidence and a bit of hard truth “if you wanna check it out” this is only for my Trans Women who are serious about there lives and Aspiring to better themselves ,Now lets continue “Shall We”!!
How to Take Control of Your Life Again
Congratulations!! you made it to the last section , now “I know your being serious about this “
Once you’ve asked yourself the hard questions and you’ve read my “FREE RESOURCE” now this is where you actually start applying the things you’ve learned. I want you to think about where you see yourself in the next 5 years, and I mean seriously think “write it down if you have to”. The woman you are destined to be doesn't believe in not getting what she wants.
She becomes exactly who she needs to be. I’m not talking about becoming delusional and saying affirmations in the mirror 20 times a day. What I'm saying is to Cultivate the next steps to achieving “said goals or dreams”. You cant just manifest your way to the next big goal , you have to put the work in as well. If you want to be a ‘HOT Girl or a Woman of Influence” you must put the work into yourself and not give a damn about who is watching. Who cares about what others think , trust me all your life people have talked about you, disrespected you and misgendered you”.
You’ve been through enough to know that “life” could care less about what you've been through. Sad to say , but someone had to mention it. You made it this far not because of luck. Its due to the fact that you envisioned a greater life than just , clocking into a job that doesn't even respect you or care if you lived to the next day. Not even the people, family or so called friends who inflicted trauma on you care. So why THE FUCK are you still crying for something that will never be.
Dry those Damn tears and be the woman that younger you will be proud of. Make those people choke on there words. I’m talking about the people who doubted you, dead named you and bullied you for being who you were always born to be and that was a Successful and Majestically Beautiful Trans Woman. So get up and be great, “no one is coming to save you” So save yourself before its to late. I would hate for your “Haters to be Proven Right”.