Letting Go Of The Past
As you move further along in your Trans Journey you realize that life itself , sheds it old skin to elevate to the next season. The same way how a caterpillar must go through the metamorphosis to transform into a butterfly. Through those big transformations , people , persons , places and things must let go of who they once were. You must peel back that very layer that you outgrew a long time ago. The version of yourself that has gotten you to this point can no longer sustain the goals, ambitions and life choices you have to make in order for you to get to the next level.
Easier said than done , but I'm telling you I am still trying to wrap my head around this myself as a trans woman and only 24 years old I find myself tugging 2 sides of a rope. The other side says “stay comfortable, be mis-gendered by your family and dead named for your whole life”. The other is saying “ girl you need to grow some balls and actually live the life you desire , those people don’t respect you and they never will”. Coming from a family oriented background I realized at an early age that I would have to split from my family and step out on my own. Its either disrespect myself by staying small or choose a life worth living.
That’s why I Preach to my fellow Trans Sisters that growth is uncomfortable weather we like it or not. No one wants to pay the price of getting to the next level knowing all they once knew was a lie and it had to shape us into who are today. I tell myself time and time again that , I wasn’t placed on this blue and green planet to be normal and I accepted that. That’s why I would like to tell my fellow Trans Sisters that its okay to “Let Go Of The Past” because its holding you back from your true potential. Once you let go , who is that woman that will emerge ? Think about it for a second. You beat the odds, conquered your fears, and moved past your trauma. You truly and wholeheartedly deserve the world. Facing those things alone is not an easy feat , but your journey doesn’t stop there you must keep going. Continue to drive further to new heights and accomplish your goals like no other.
Its okay if no one is clapping for you right now , but I am because I was in your shoes. MY parents never once clapped for me after I came out the closet ,”even though the closet was glass’. Was I sad and heartbroken “yes I was” but did that stop me from leveling up my life knowing the fire inside me had to be calmed or else burn myself alive knowing I would have to hide who I truly was. This is your life, take control of it, otherwise you will be a puppet in someone else world not ever knowing “who you would have become if you would have chosen yourself over others”.
Its okay to be selfish, its okay to be conceited, its okay to be all about yourself as long as your morals are true to your character. I say all this to say , that those people , those so called family members never once gave a damn about you. They never cared about being respectful , they only cared about an image. That’s not right , nor is that healthy for your mental health. So from today on choose yourself , so you can finally fly and be free. Remember '“ A bird doesn’t fly until it realizes it had wings all along”.
That quote specifically was from my newest book called “Dear Trans Sister” check out via this link “https://www.deartranssisters.blog/books-for-trans-women/p/dear-trans-sister” its a 30 day Quote book to help my fellow sisters to elevate and grow into the woman they need to be.